tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post3017591613046267992..comments2023-05-12T02:43:54.466-07:00Comments on A Nickel's Worth of Common Sense: I'll Cry if I Want ToAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04552918781072146852noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-42658655973248184972010-03-16T13:52:15.990-07:002010-03-16T13:52:15.990-07:00a friend of mine suggested that I check out your b...a friend of mine suggested that I check out your blog as this story is similar to one of my own and I cannot believe the parallels. I know the pain you have felt and may still be feeling. When we did our first foster-to-adopt, we got a baby girl at three days old, born four days before my birthday. We called her my birthday present. We had her for nineteen months until she went on a visit with her birth parents and while on the visit, a judge granted them custody in a verdict that shocked everyone. We never saw her again. I ache for her. (the judge's decision was a bad one - she is in another province in her eleventh foster home and we have since adopted her birth brother who came to us seven weeks after she left)<br /><br />My birthdays have never been the same. Her birthday is my worst day every year. It does get a little bit easier with time but I still miss her and will have some questions for God when I finally get to ask Him.Sharlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06986104124394505985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-53921896831523763822009-01-11T22:00:00.000-08:002009-01-11T22:00:00.000-08:00Much love to you in the aftermath of another birth...Much love to you in the aftermath of another birthday shared with Jazzy. I am glad she had you in the time that she did and I too wish she was in your and your family's life. ((((((((HUGS)))))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-41535505397645405132009-01-11T04:18:00.000-08:002009-01-11T04:18:00.000-08:00I can't imagine. And I'm sorry.I can't imagine. And I'm sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-25040831568470938612009-01-07T20:36:00.000-08:002009-01-07T20:36:00.000-08:00i'm so sorry about your loss...i hope your birthda...i'm so sorry about your loss...i hope your birthday is as good as possible...sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816972200056579468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-40124128918802219442009-01-07T13:06:00.000-08:002009-01-07T13:06:00.000-08:00I am sorry about your loss.I am sorry about your loss.birthmothertalkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17690158739622745922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-32506199132840034232009-01-07T07:13:00.000-08:002009-01-07T07:13:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss and that it's tied to y...I'm so sorry for your loss and that it's tied to your own special day. Some things in life are just beyond understanding.<BR/>((HUGS))<BR/>dawnDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01198082344456465490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-16520144031716548542009-01-06T20:15:00.000-08:002009-01-06T20:15:00.000-08:00(((hugs))) Happy Birthday and a gentle hug on what...(((hugs))) Happy Birthday and a gentle hug on what is a painful time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-87171125359616455342009-01-06T19:28:00.000-08:002009-01-06T19:28:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. Happy birthday to you...I'm so sorry for your loss. Happy birthday to you and Jazzy.FattyPantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08471930990530375865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-24708578601542557052009-01-06T18:47:00.000-08:002009-01-06T18:47:00.000-08:00I found your blog from adoption.com. I just had t...I found your blog from adoption.com. I just had to tell you that your post brought tears to my eyes. I didn't lose my child to a system that isn't fair, but I did lose the daughter I was adopting, just 3 days after I handed her back to her foster family in Guatemala. She went to sleep one night and never woke up. I don't know if or when the pain gets better, but I'm sharing yours. I hope you were able to find at least some joy in your other children on your difficult day.Aileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01750667553051719005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-29998372523128289592009-01-06T17:12:00.000-08:002009-01-06T17:12:00.000-08:00I hope you take comfort in the fact that you were ...I hope you take comfort in the fact that you were there for that child in a way that no one else was, at a time in her life when she really needed it. You did something really special for her. I'm sorry that the upshot of that is that it has to be so hard for you now. Hang in there.Queenie. . .https://www.blogger.com/profile/00666609807461763029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-18822006410834936632009-01-06T15:36:00.000-08:002009-01-06T15:36:00.000-08:00Happy birthday Jen... and here's hoping that one d...Happy birthday Jen... and here's hoping that one day your pain will heal. (((((HUGS)))))dinnaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05134273252051397973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-17844746966410245672009-01-06T15:26:00.000-08:002009-01-06T15:26:00.000-08:00Thank you all for your love and support. There is...Thank you all for your love and support. There is no real word to describe what our relationship was like, no real word to describe the situation but I appreciate the support, the prayers and the good wishes. Mostly, of course, the understanding that this is a hard time and its ok for me to be sad a bit while I think of what I have missed. <BR/><BR/>JenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04552918781072146852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-59708599702148711602009-01-06T14:40:00.000-08:002009-01-06T14:40:00.000-08:00I'm so sorry for you...I'm so sorry for you...GINA and KEVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02823452837222350546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-82857431426425672112009-01-06T10:09:00.000-08:002009-01-06T10:09:00.000-08:00I think of your situation with Jazzy often but muc...I think of your situation with Jazzy often but much more now that I have my own baby girl to worry about. I love her with my entire heart and the thought of her leaving makes me cry like a baby. I can only imagine your pain. I know it is a loss that you will grieve your entire life.Tuduhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-79925044487514786872009-01-06T08:21:00.000-08:002009-01-06T08:21:00.000-08:00I'm so very sorry.I hope one day you two are able ...I'm so very sorry.<BR/><BR/>I hope one day you two are able to be joined again, even if its just to celebrate your shared birthdays.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-5161853410200727672009-01-06T04:57:00.000-08:002009-01-06T04:57:00.000-08:00Hugs Jen!Hugs Jen!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-83938267177346840692009-01-06T01:17:00.000-08:002009-01-06T01:17:00.000-08:00Jen,No words come out that don't sound like a Hall...Jen,<BR/><BR/>No words come out that don't sound like a Hallmark card or something. So I'll just send electronic hugs. It's all I can figure to do.<BR/><BR/>Always your friend,<BR/><BR/>ReginaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-21976137088197681732009-01-05T23:24:00.000-08:002009-01-05T23:24:00.000-08:00You have been in my heart and prayers today dear c...You have been in my heart and prayers today dear cousin,even before reading, so much going on, in your world. Love you!<BR/>Those who cry much, love much. At a memorial on Sat the pastor said the number of tears we shed go hand in hand with the amount of love you gave. Shedding a few here for you, for Jazzy, for all that was lost.....Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187824167399277044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-75110973421596368932009-01-05T18:59:00.000-08:002009-01-05T18:59:00.000-08:00Happy birthday Jen and Jazzy.((Hugs)) to you Jen.Happy birthday Jen and Jazzy.<BR/><BR/>((Hugs)) to you Jen.Paragrapheinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16846573723601387283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-89861764294962126542009-01-05T18:53:00.000-08:002009-01-05T18:53:00.000-08:00It is a tragedy that in adoption/foster care someo...It is a tragedy that in adoption/foster care someone always ends up hurting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-14751878369741477822009-01-05T18:15:00.000-08:002009-01-05T18:15:00.000-08:00(((((((((((hugs)))))))) my friend, just hugs.(((((((((((hugs)))))))) my friend, just hugs.Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918826364837237450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-64909065754066179242009-01-05T17:49:00.000-08:002009-01-05T17:49:00.000-08:00(((Jen)))Happy birthday, Jazzy. And happy birthday...(((Jen)))<BR/><BR/>Happy birthday, Jazzy. And happy birthday to you, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-2049417257294104462009-01-05T17:23:00.000-08:002009-01-05T17:23:00.000-08:00I am sorry that this day has so much pain for you ...I am sorry that this day has so much pain for you when it should be all joy. Remember the boys ant to have a mom that celebrates her birthday and share in your day. for tonight let it be about Jazzy..<BR/><BR/>my heart aches for you friendAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4137229307000660233.post-54482584198644730472009-01-05T17:18:00.000-08:002009-01-05T17:18:00.000-08:00your blog just breaks my heart! i can relate to h...your blog just breaks my heart! i can relate to how you feel. i hope you do get to enjoy your birthday... cry if you need to, mourn because you can... and then celebrate a day that is YOUR BIRTHDAY!rsbghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02717239912359255040noreply@blogger.com