Overall, we have been relatively incident free when it comes to racism and our kids. There are some significant exceptions, and some I have handled better than others.
You might remember the incident that happened earlier this hockey season where a boy on another team implied my child was an animal normally found in tropical climates.
Greg was offended, and did what he was supposed to do by reporting the incident to the referee on the ice, to his coach and then again speaking up bravely when we had to meet with the President of our local hockey association and the BC hockey league itself.
The outcome was that more education was offerred to refs throughout the province to deal with these specific sorts of situations and the child in question was talked to. It was the outcome we were hoping for. (although momentarily I did fantasize about forcing the offending child to skate around the rink with a sign stating he was an ignorant racist hick while I threw tomatoes at him.)
Fast forward six months or so. Selections are made for the best hockey players in that age group to attend the U16 BC CUP.
We were VERY proud when Greg made that team.
Then the team rosters came out.
On the same team as Greg was THIS child.
Sitting next to us a the rink on our first day there? His parents.
And the next day? and the day after that? Again, his parents.
The young boy Caden befriended and played with the entire weekend? His little brother.
They were, in my completely judgemental opinion, pretty much what you would imagine people to be like whose child would utter racist slurs. I smiled, I was nice to their little boy but for the life of me I couldn't be friendly.
I wish there was a better ending to this than to say we sat 5 seats apart but in different worlds, but there isn't. I hope they saw us as a family - a REAL family - with human children who just happen to have different color skin than their own. I am not sure they did. But I did see them as a mother and father who love their children, even if they have taught ignorance.
Killing racism with reality one hockey game at a time.
By the way my kid did good. We will hear more later about that!