Monday, November 10, 2008

Update on My Nan

We are in the middle of "Fall Break" here and enjoying the time off with the boys. My thoughts and prayers however are with one of my grandmothers, my Nan.

Nan is in a hospital where she landed last week after taking a bad fall at home. She broke her femur and it required surgery. Surgery she can't handle because she is too sick to be put under anesthetic. So they inserted a rod into her leg while she had a spinal block.

She is disoriented, upset and in lots of pain. One nurse takes away her oxygen, forgetting she needs it all the time, another gives her too much. One tries to make her walk, forgetting she hasn't been mobile in months, another wants to tie her into bed because she is agitated and scared.

She needs to get back to her caregiver's home. She needs to be safe. Even more important she needs to FEEL safe. And where she's at, and with the pain she is in, the medications she is on, she doesn't feel safe.

Please think of her. What we want for her is that her time left is pain free and stress free. Unfortunately, that's not happening right now.



Vanessa said...

Lifting you Nan up in my prayers!! It's so hard for the elderly to be taken and aplced somewhere where they're not comfortable!

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Anonymous said...

Where did my comment just go??? Anyhow...I was just going to suggest hospice house if there is one nearby. Their motto is "No one dies in pain, and no one dies alone." Sounds like that is exactly what you are wanting for your Nan during this difficult time. My heart goes out to you Jen, with your Nan being so far away, it makes a hard and emotional time for you even harder. Hang in there. Hugs to you.

Unknown said...

Julia = thank you. Yes, to me that would be a wonderful option as well, and the care she gets with our cousin (her caregiver) is also very good. At this point we might just pull her out of the hospital against medical advice and let her die in peace at home. Its what she wants, at this point, our wishes don't matter.

Unknown said...

Oh and Julia - your comment didn't post right away because unfortunately I am having to moderate comments now.

Di said...

Ah, Jen.. my heart and my prayers go out to you and your Nan. hard to be so far away when stuff like this goes on. HUGS, Love DI